Dating Can Suck…

I have been holding on to this story for a while now trying to decide if I should post it. Guess what I decided.

I have been talking to this lady, I’ll call her “K”, for a few months now. Not everyday mind you but every couple of weeks we would talk. We often said that we should meet and chat and have dinner or something. Well i did not really put a lot of thought into this because it seemed that it would NEVER happen. She just seemed to distracted. In fact there were times that we would be talking and she would have to go and would say “I’ll call you right back”. I’m like “OK, cool”. She would never call back. So I really did not think we would ever meet.

Well one Friday we were talking and decided that we should meet that night for dinner. I was like “wow, its really gonna happen”. Anyway I drove down to her house, nearly an hour away. I got there and rang the bell. She answered the door but was on the phone. Anyway I stood in the foyer for nearly 15 minutes while she talked on the phone. She finally ended the call and invited me into the family room to sit down and visit for a bit. After maybe five minutes she got another phone call. So there I sat for maybe another twenty minutes while she talked. She again ended the call apologizing profusely to me. We we started to visit again when she received another phone call. So once again I was sitting listening to her on the phone. Once again she ended the call and apologized. We resumed visiting for just a few minutes when the doorbell rang. She answered it I heard her talking to a man. They soon both appeared in the family room. She introduced me but I don’t remember his name. Anyway he came in and sat down on the couch between my “date” and me. My “date” and he spent the next almost 2 hrs talking business. Apparently they are trying to help each other build their respective businesses. They talked about clients and successes and failures.. I was just wanting dinner. I should tell you that I was starving (I had not eaten since 11:30 am and it was now after 6 pm. So yeah I was hungry). My “dates’” friend even put in a video that they started to watch. They discussed some movie called “The Secret”. At the time I was completely unfamiliar with this movie. I have since learned a bit about it. Anyway I was feeling very uncomfortable being an onlooker and a kind of eavesdropper. It was after 10 pm when they ended their conversation and he left. Now i had said maybe two words in the last 2 hrs. OK I was really struggling at this point. I had a headache and I needed to eat. Finally he left. We had just started talking again when she received yet another phone call. This time however she told the caller that she could not talk and promptly hung up. That was nice of her. For the next hour to hour and a half I listened to her talk about her ex husband and what a loser he was. I tried to be understanding and attentive but found myself getting more uncomfortable. My body was literally shutting down. I did not know how to get out of there without being rude. I think I might have even had a bit of a panic attack. Finally at 12:20, she stopped talking and I said “I should go”. I have never been so relieved to end a date. I only went down there for dinner and NEVER even got to eat. DAMN.

dinner, The Secret, dating, relationship, panic attack, ex husband, eavesdropper